Why Most Women Avoid Men Who Skip Therapy
Mental health has always been important.
But in the context of modern relationships—especially among younger generations—it is becoming essential.
According to a recent survey conducted by the dating app Hily, mental health attitudes are directly influencing who people choose to date.
The study surveyed 2,500 Millennial and Gen Z Americans and revealed that a majority of young women would not date a man who doesn’t believe in therapy.
Fifty-five percent of Millennial and Gen Z women said they would flatly refuse to date someone who rejected therapy altogether.
Even more telling, nearly one-quarter of young women said they would not consider dating a man who hadn’t been to therapy at all.
This shift highlights something deeper than preference—it points to a fundamental change in how younger generations view emotional intelligence, vulnerability, and long-term compatibility.
Therapy is no longer just a tool for fixing problems.
For many, it’s now a marker of emotional maturity.
Men who are open to therapy are seen as more appealing, more self-aware, and more capable of being supportive partners.
In the same Hily study, nearly half of Gen Z women and more than half of Millennial women said they were more attracted to men who had gone to therapy than those who had not.
That’s a significant cultural signal.
Part of this trend is due to the broader destigmatization of mental health care.
Public figures and athletes are increasingly vocal about their experiences with therapy, helping normalize it for younger audiences.
When someone is willing to seek therapy, it often indicates that they are comfortable facing their emotions and invested in personal growth.
In a recent YouTube video, licensed psychologist Dr. Ali Mattu explains that therapy teaches essential relationship skills like conflict resolution, active listening, and emotional regulation—qualities that directly contribute to healthier romantic dynamics.
For young women today, those traits are non-negotiable.
It’s not about perfection.
It’s about progress.
Many women report that a partner’s openness to therapy signals a readiness to grow both individually and together.
In contrast, a refusal to consider therapy can come across as a red flag—a sign that someone may be unwilling to examine their behavior or evolve in response to life’s challenges.
This doesn’t mean everyone must be in therapy at all times.
Rather, it suggests that being open to therapy—and respecting its value—matters more now than ever.
For men navigating the dating world, this insight is critical.
It’s not just about being attractive physically or financially.
Emotional availability, empathy, and the willingness to grow are often what set one person apart from the rest.
In the era of Mental Health Awareness, showing that you care about your mental well-being isn’t just good for you—it may also be the most attractive trait you can bring into a relationship.